If
you’ve been with your partner for a while, you may be looking for signs
you’re ready to move in together. This is a big step hence you need to
consider a lot of things first. To help you make sure, here are eight
signs you’re ready to move in together.
1. You Have Your Own Life
This is not just one of the major signs you’re ready to move in
together, it’s one of the cardinal rules of relationships. It’s so
important to have your own life. Don’t neglect your friends or family
completely for the sake of your partner. Sure, there will be some give
and take, but always be true to the things that define you. Keeping your
own schedule and doing your own thing is key when it comes to living
together. You’re going to want time apart at times, so having your own
life will really be important.
2. You’re Out of The Honeymoon Phase
Being out of the honeymoon phase is essential if you’re thinking of
moving in together. The honeymoon phase doesn’t always have a specific
time limit, but it’s usually anytime within the six months to one year
mark of a relationship. During the honeymoon phase you’re still craving
each other at all times. You still think your partner is beyond
perfection. You haven’t quite gotten to the point where you recognize a
few of each other’s quirks in order to start accepting them.
If you feel you’re still in the early part of your relationship – or
the honeymoon phase – you may want to hold off on signing that lease
together, because it wouldn’t be a nice thing when your partners true
colors come out after you have decided to move in with them.
3. You’re Secure with Your Finances
Moving in together isn’t all peaches and cream. There will suddenly be a
number of bills and expenses you’ll need to decide how to divide. This
can put a strain on any relationship, let alone a romantic one. Make
sure you have your finances in order, and don’t be afraid to have a
serious talk with your partner about their finances . The last thing you
want is to be stuck in a signed arrangement with someone who suddenly
can’t pay their share.
4. You’ve Spent Serious Time Together
Think this through logically: you will be spending a lot more time
together. Right off the bat this sounds great, right? No more traveling
to each other’s places, no more coordinating and planning in order to
see each other. While that all sounds grand, remember that it means your
partner will be around most of the time. Your place is now their place.
If you have similar schedules, you will be home together a lot. Make
sure you’ve spent some real time together, meaning more than two nights
per week. It’s a good preview of how your bae is going to act once
you’ve settled in to a shared space.
5. You’ve Cooked Together
When you live alone or with your friends, food is pretty easy. You can
do your own thing, grab a pizza … anything goes! You don’t really have
to worry about people eating your grub, especially if you have the
labeling system down with your roommates. When you’re living with your
lover, though, things are a little different. Most times you’ll cook and
eat together. Cooking together is fun, romantic, and a good way to tell
if you’ll get along in a domestic situation.
6. You’ve Defined Your Relationship
Do not – I repeat do NOT – move in together if you have not yet defined
your relationship! This is so important! You don’t want to co-habitate
with someone who has a completely different idea of what your
relationship is than you. Maybe he just wants a steady supply of p*ssy
or maybe she just wants a man to support her financially. Nothing more.
Make
sure you’re both in the relationship you want at the level you mutually
feel it should be at this point. Don’t compare yourselves to other
people, but do have a clear and determining conversation about your
relationship status before sharing a place.
7. You’ve Discussed The Future
Some people feel moving in together is the last step before marriage.
Others might think it’s a way to avoid marriage altogether. Still others
feel it doesn’t denote whether you’ll marry or not, it’s just the right
situation for your relationship. Make sure you discuss this with your
lover to make sure you’re both on the same page. Ladies, If you’re
gunning for a wedding ring and he’s not even thinking along those lines,
you’re in for quite a misunderstanding that could botch your
relationship.
8. You’re Excited Moving in together
is a big step, but it’s also an exciting one! If you have serious
concerns about your relationship or if you feel you’re not ready to
share your space, pay attention to these feelings! You don’t want to
rush something like moving in together. If you’re genuinely excited and
love the idea of learning how to live together Moving in with anyone is a
big decision.
Moving
in with your partner brings a number of additional things to consider.
Make sure you’ve done your due diligence and really determined if you
and your partner are both ready to move in together.
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